“love .. peace .. and happiness” ..

my friend passed away on friday .. january 7 .. 2016 .. at 12:15 .. according to the clock that hung on the wall .. of her room in palliative care .. i was given a gift that day .. i was invited to be present at her death .. i arrived about ten minutes before her last outbreath ..

i was present when she zoomed off .. like the bright and shining star she is ..

i’ll miss our time together .. no more heading over to her house to bring her outside for a walkabout her garden .. drinking tea and babbling about plants .. or finding her out playing happily in her garden .. or searching the aisles of value village together .. or looking out my kitchen window to see her peering at plants in my garden .. before we’d head off to play in someone else’s garden .. no more sitting by her pond .. pondering life’s lessons together .. no more hugs of joy .. or sadness .. or misplaced angers .. or moments of quiet peacefullness .. i’ll miss these times with joe ..

for fifteen years we gardened other people’s gardens .. side by side .. all the while learning as we gardened our own .. in any one of these gardens we shared our joy .. shared our sads .. and mads .. and glads .. and our good .. and our shared sense of gratitude .. for the wonderfull lives we live .. for the opportunity to meet as friends in this lifetime ..

i believe we’ll still do all of these things together .. we’ll just be about it a wee bit differently .. the physicality of my friend is gone .. not my friend ..

i believe joe and i have shared many lifetimes together .. that we have always been friends .. that we are souls that will always come together .. again .. and again ..

i’ll miss seeing her coming down the road, though .. wheelbarrow loaded up for the day’s gardening .. big smile on her face .. happy to be here .. on the planet .. ready to wander down the road with me .. side by side .. into our day ..

and yet .. see .. she’s right here .. now ..

“love .. peace .. and happiness” .. my dear friend ..  💕


  1. grdnstff says:

    that’s it, mary .. and all the better for it ..

  2. grdnstff says:

    hi, erin .. just got back here .. thank you for your kind words .. i was sitting on joe’s bench this morning ..

  3. Erin says:

    Absolutely beautiful, your words are written with such eloquence they painted a wonderful picture in my mind that I will cherish in my thoughts of Jo.

  4. Mary duNor says:

    So it is -that we know each other, as we stroll along. M

  5. Alison Watt says:

    I will miss her smiling face too. I am so sorry for your loss Jane. How fortunate you both were to have such a beautiful friendship.

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